WHY are some marriages plagued with strife while others are peaceful and last long?
It is because” invisible barriers” destroy some marriages.
One man whose marriage was affected by invisible barriers was the biblical Moses. He also did not accomplish the purposes God gave him.
There were invisible barriers that affected him as seen in Exodus 18: 2-6 “After Moses had sent away his wife Zipporah, his father-in-law Jethro received her.”
He had sent his entire family away!
Anger is an invisible barrier that can destroy your marriage if not dealt with.
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Invisible barrier of anger
Moses had an invisible barrier of anger.
The first time Moses’ anger surfaced was when he was in Egypt where he killed a man.
Exodus 2:11-12 . One day, after Moses had grown up, he went out to where his own people were and watched them at their hard labor.
He saw an Egyptian beating a Hebrew, one of his own people.
Looking this way and that and seeing no one, he killed the Egyptian and hid him in the sand.
The second time the anger problem welled-up again was at Mt Sinai during the Golden calf incident.
Exodus 32:19-20. When Moses approached the camp and saw the calf and the dancing, his anger burned and he threw the tablets out of his hands, breaking them to pieces at the foot of the mountain.
And he took the calf the people had made and burned it in the fire; then he ground it to powder, scattered it on the water and made the Israelites drink it.
Moses anger is actually not in the breaking of the tablets to pieces, but it is seen in the burning of the Golden Calf in the fire, grinding it into powder, mixing it in the water and making the people to drink it!
A third time when this anger problem showed again was when the people complained for lack of water.
God had instructed Moses to speak to the rock and he thought God was equally angry as he was with the Israelites who complained about water.
Instead of speaking to the rock, as he had been instructed, he struck the rock not once but twice.
Exodus 20 :11,“Then Moses raised his arm and struck the rock twice with his staff. Water gushed out, and the community and their livestock drank.”
As a result, God told Moses and his brother Aaron that they were not going to the promised land.
Exodus 20:11.“ But the Lord said to Moses and Aaron, “Because you did not trust in me enough to honor me as holy in the sight of the Israelites, you will not bring this community into the land I give them.”
Moses was stopped by something as small as anger from fulfilling God’s purposes.
Where does the anger we see and experience in our matrimonial homes come from?
Anger can be generational
Anger can be a generational issue and can exist as a curse that travels down a bloodline.
Moses’ anger, she said, went back to his great grandfather and is traced to the time Jacob was blessing his sons in
Genesis 49:2-4. Assemble and listen, sons of Jacob; listen to your father Israel.
Reuben, you are my firstborn, my might, the first sign of my strength, excelling in honor, excelling in power.
Turbulent as the waters, you will no longer excel, for you went up onto your father’s bed, onto my couch and defiled it.
This was a curse!
Rueben had slept with one of his father’s concubines called Bilhah and his father came to know of it.
His father cursed him.
It meant there would now be failure in Reuben’s marriage and all the people in his bloodline.
As is the case with many Christians, they would now pray more, fast more, but nothing would change because there is an active curse in the family bloodline.
The root of Moses anger, which was an invisible barrier that blocked him from fulfilling his purpose, is found in Genesis 49: 5-7, when Jacob was telling his children what would become of them.
Simeon and Levi are brothers— their swords are weapons of violence.
Let me not enter their council, let me not join their assembly, for they have killed men in their anger and hamstrung oxen as they pleased.
Cursed be their anger, so fierce, and their fury, so cruel! I will scatter them in Jacob and disperse them in Israel.
What Jacob was telling Simeon and Levi is that a curse of anger was in their lives.
Would kill when angry
The curse meant that people in Reuben’s bloodline would kill when angry, in their families and marriages people are always angry, it is in the bloodline, in their generations.
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Moses’ genealogy is found in Exodus 6: 14-27.
Moses’ father Amram was the son of Kohath, whose father was Levi. He got the curse of Levi, his great-grandfather and that is why when angry he killed.
A section of members at the Commuaute Evangelique des Vainqueurs(CEV) church in Kinsasha, during the BBI Congo mission in July 2022.
Affecting families and marriages
Whatever is in your bloodline is what is affecting our families and marriages.
When you have prayed, fasted, made declarations about it and it refuses to go, then it is a curse.
Curses do not respond to simple prayer, but are broken through repentance.
If you find something happening in your marriage, you may think you or your spouse is the problem.
What you may not know is that it could be punishment coming from the great-grand-parents passed down the generation.
Exodus 20 :3-5. You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.
You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generation of those who hate me.
When people are struggling with issues in marriages, including fits of anger, it has nothing to do with them because it is in their bloodline.
You can feel the frustration in a Christian’s life who is serving God, is very faithful, but lacking victory in an area of their life because someone in the bloodline worshipped other gods.
We turn to God to breaking a curse of anger and stop it from affecting ours marriage because we are dealing with his judgement against disobedience.
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